Joy to the world! Tis the season to be jolly!
Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds.
Everyone is happy at holiday time — right? Wrong!
Truth be told, many people feel lonely, sad, anxious and depressed at this time of year.
The holidays have gotten out of hand!
The media hype promotes certain images that we feel we have to live up to, but they are false, fake, not real. Then when we don’t attain those images that were planted in our brains (probably by the sugar-plum fairies) we feel depressed, and unfulfilled. Bah Humbug!
We are told that we need to buy, buy, buy, in order to feel the “spirit of giving” and make our loved ones happy. There are even “special sales” on those supposedly perfect gift items that we can’t do without. So we are herded through the crowded malls and stores hunting for: over priced toys, the latest and greatest electronic devises (what did we ever do before GPS’ or iPods?), and those promotional “whatever is popular on TV” items, for those we love and those we feel obligated to buy for. We rack up massive debts to make our loved ones happy.
But Christmas comes and goes in a flash, and no one seems any more merry, instead everyone is exhausted and just happy that the holiday is over. Then the Happy New Year begins with credit card statements from strange stores names we don’t remember shopping at, and dollar amounts for things we don’t even remember we purchased. Now we get really depressed cause we have to spend the whole new year paying off all the debts that the “Christmas Spirit” posessed us to buy.
Tis the Season to feel burnt out, wondering if it was all worth it.
Let’s try a little experiment; think back to last year, on Christmas Day, do you remember what gifts you gave to who? Or what gifts you received from who? How about two years ago? You may remember a few, but gifts are not the main thing you remember about the holidays are they?
The important things to remember are not things at all; they are the memories of time spent with those you love.
What is the purpose of the holiday in the first place? To celebrate the birth of Jesus? After all “Jesus is the reason for the Season” isn’t he? If so would he approve of how out of control the celebration of his birthdate has become?
I don’t mean to burst your bubble, but Jesus Christ wasn’t even born on December 25th. There is no historical evidence for this date. So then, who decided that Jesus’ birth would be celebrated on that date? The early Christian church did not celebrate Jesus’ birth at all. It wasn’t until 440 A.D. that the church officially proclaimed December 25th as the birth of Christ. This was not based on any religious evidence but on a Roman pagan festival. Saturnalia was a tradition inherited by the Roman pagans from an earlier Babylonian priesthood. December 25th was used as a celebration of the birthday of the sun god. It was observed near the winter solstice.
Accurately Jesus was born under the sign of Virgo (the Virgin) so his birthdate was between August and September.
Well then does it make more sense to celebrate Santa Claus? Have you ever noticed that most children are afraid of Santa? They are not comfortable because they instinctively know he is a stranger. Think about it, you tell your children not to talk to strangers, then you tell them it is “ok” to sit on this strangely dressed, weird looking big fat guy’s lap, isn’t that being hypocritical? Kids are not stupid! Think about what you are teaching them, when they find out that Santa is a lie, will they trust other things you tell them? If you’re interested in finding out the origins of Santa, a.k.a. St. Nicholas go to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santa_Claus
Whatever you choose to do for the holidays just do it for the right reasons. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the chaotic mass hysteria, it takes all the fun out of it! There is nothing wrong with celebrating good quality time with family and friends, but do it without all the media hype, lies and deception. It will be much more rewarding.
Here are some simple words of advise:
One of the best antidotes for the holiday blues is doing something for someone else. Volunteer your time this holiday season to help others, doing so will add a lot more meaning to your holiday season. Get your children involved too, teach them that it is “better to give than to receive”.
How about Making some priceless homemade gifts from the heart? Instead of expensive store-bought items that have no meaning or any long-term value.
There are so many things to make; from cookies, breads and candies, to knitted pot holders, mittens, scarfs or socks, scented candles, ornaments or wreaths. Those are just a few that come to mind. Ask your kids, they will probably have great ideas of their own. Here is just one site I found that has some fun inexpensive holiday craft ideas: http://www.familycorner.com/dir/Kitchen_and_Home/Crafts/Holidays_and_Occasions/Christmas/
There are many resources on the internet to choose from.
Some people love the energy and exuberance of big holiday parties and activities. For others, all of it is very taxing. If you find yourself getting a little anxious, take a breather. Find a quiet spot to relax and recharge your batteries. How about sending the kids away for an evening, and relax with a nice bubble bath! Then curl up with a nice hot cup of coco and that great book you always wanted to read, or watch an old comedy (laughter if a great stress reliever!).
It is easy to overindulge around the holidays, but excessive drinking and overeating will only make you feel more depressed.
Don’t be disappointed if your holidays aren’t like they used to be. Life is full of changes. Don’t dwell on the fact that the “good old days” are gone. Make some “good new days” that will be the memories of tomorrow!
Now here’s the most important thing you can do to beat those blues:
No matter what is happening in your life, keep in mind all that you have to be thankful for.
You can’t be depressed and blessed at the same time!
Stay safe, stress less and spend quality time with your family and friends!