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Change of Seasons

Nature can teach us alot about ourselves.

Depending on where you live in the world you may witness drastic changes in scenery as the earth rotates and the seasons change.  Obviously if you live on a Tropical Island or in the Antarctic you will not experience all  four seasons.  But for many, experiencing the gradual transitions of nature’s awe inspiring events from Winter to Spring and Summer to Autumn are welcome occurences.

Not only does the climate go through changes but wildlife; plants, trees and the sky all transform seasonally into distinctive and stunning panoramas before your very eyes.

Are there Seasons of your Life also?  Yes

SPRING: Like a newborn chick hatching, it is the spring of life.  

Spring is when the wide array of colorful flowers bud, and start to bloom.  Life is awakened from the cold of Winter.  New life springs forth all around us.

For humans this phase of life starts from birth to our teens, when life is new, filled with wonder and excitement.

SUMMER:  Summer is the time of fun in the sun, where the growth of spring  slows down and stabilizes.

Just as Summer temperatures start to rise, hormonal changes start affecting our bodies and our minds, this phase lasts from our teens to thirties.  These are our reproductive years.

AUTUMN:  Autumn is the turning point of life.

The air starts to cool, just as our bodies become more sensitive to temperature changes.  This is the mid point of life between our forties to sixties.   As the leaves change color and start to fall, our bodies too start changing.  It is the time of menopause, reversingthe affects of adolescence.

WINTER:  Nature becomes dormant.

As Winter approaches the sky turns cloudy gray like the hair on our heads.  The brisk cold affects our our bones like the bare limbs of the trees.  This is the time when physical beauty fades, but in its place a true sense of self, an appreciation for all of life’s precious moments emerges.  A reflection of past accomplishments and failures, of loves gained and lost.

Each season of your life has its own unique and beautiful attributes, the object is to enjoy whatever season you are in and make it the best time of your life!
Enjoy every Season for what it is, share your experiences, your knowledge, wisdom and your dreams.

Have no regrets, live life every day as if it is your last.

Look forward to the next as a welcome occurance of change and growth in the Seasons of Life.

Judging a Book By It’s Cover

You’ve all heard the phrase 

“You Can’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover” 

But yet we all do it. 

Just think about it,  when you’re browsing in a bookstore aren’t you attracted to a book by how interesting the cover is?   They may be colorful, or have some unique picture or phrase that grabs your attention so you’ll pick it up to find out more, right?  They are designed that way, that’s marketing. 

Believe it or not it is the same with people! 

Did you know that you only have three to seven seconds upon meeting someone to make an impression on them?   In this short time, the other person will form an opinion about you that is based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed. 

That means you will be  judged before you can even open your mouth to speak!  

This is done on a subconscious/emotional level of the brain.  So there is nothing you can do about it, or can you?

As Will Rogers once said “You never get a second chance to make a first impression

Like it or not, you need to grab people’s attention right away by your appearance. 

Though your true beauty is on the inside, your personality will take time for people to see.

“It’s beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.” ~Anonymous ~

There is only one that does not judge you by your looks, that is God.  “…for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Sam. 16:7b. 

But when dealing with people how you present yourself will determine if someone will want to be your friend, consider you for a job, or feel that you are trustworthy, and so on.

So what can you do to make a good first impression that will last?   How important is your appearance? 

Your clothes, your hair, and your mannerisms all play a part in the impression you make on others.  

Let’s start with the way you dress. 

What is the best way to dress for the meeting or occasion?  If it’s a business meeting, a job interview, or a first date even, think about  what is the appropriate attire?  Also ask yourself what other people will be wearing so you are not over or under dressed for the event. 

Wearing the correct Season of colors for your specific skin tone, eyes and hair is crucial in making the best impression and feeling confident about your appearance.

If you have confidence in yourself others will notice right away.  A polite and courteous behavior helps make a good first impression.  

How about your personal grooming?   Cleanliness is next to godliness!  Nicely styled hair, neat and clean clothes (not wrinkled like you wore them to bed the night before), and appropriately applied makeup are all important.  Oh yeah and take it easy on the perfume!  Too much can be just as offensive if not more so than none at all.

Project a positive attitude, even when you are nervousness, and remember to smile,  it’s contagious!

People will “read” you on the outside before getting to know you on the inside, so strive to be the most beautiful you can be both inside and out.

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From Different Worlds?

You’ve all heard of the book  “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” by Dr. John Gray, right?  As great as the book is in helping improve communications by using the analogy of men and women coming from different worlds, you need to accept the fact that as diverse as we may seem we are still from the same planet, EARTH. 

So get used to it!

It is true that men do not think like women and visa versa.  Nor do men have the same priorities as women.  We are wired differently for a reason.  This is the divine design of our creator.   He knew that opposites would attract.  Viva la Difference!  

We are designed to compliment each other. 

Men are designed with single focus, to do one thing at a time and give it their all.   They are great at accomplishing big jobs that require alot of concentration.  That is why men make great soliders, surgeons, firefighters and police officers (just to name a few).  

Their switch is either on or off.  Mostly ON!  

Women on the other hand are a bit more complicated, with many switches, knobs and buttons (moods and conditions).  And all must be turned on in the right sequence and order to get right results.  No wonder we drive men crazy!

Women are designed to multi-task.    They have responsibilities of cleaning, while cooking, and taking care of their kids all at the same time (not to mention about 5 other things usually going on as well).  But leave a man home for a day to do all the daily tasks a woman does and you find out only a few things get done.  Then we complain that they are lazy or don’t care.  That is not the problem.   They are not designed like women!

Here are some differences in the way men and women think:

Women–  talk about their feelings and frustrations.

Men–  talk about their actions and accomplishments, not their “feelings”.

Women– work out their problems by sharing them with others, and asking for help.

Men– Work out their problems alone (talking about them or asking for help is considered being weak).

Women– Desire to improve things by offering advise without being asked (men reject this as a form of humiliation).

Men– Need to be accepted as they are.  They will improve themselves when they feel loved, trusted and accepted.

It is a miracle that we can ever see eye to eye on anything!   

The important thing to understand is that we cannot make men think like us (why would we want to anyway?).  

A wife needs to have respect for her husband, not tear him down every other day.  I have seen so many women work so hard to change their men, then when they finally change them (break them) they no longer love or respect them. 

When a man feels respected he will do anything for the woman he loves.   

Success in marriage is more than finding the right person: it is a matter of being the right person.  Work on improving yourself and it will improve your marriage and your life.

Relationships take work.  And let me tell you it is “hard work”.   No great accomplishment in life is easy.  

Don’t allow your differences to tear your relationship apart.

Marriage takes a lifetime to perfect (maybe that is why it is “until death do us part”). 


You know what they say “practice makes perfect”, and practicing can be a lot of fun!


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Dying Your Hair Without Killing Your Looks

We’ve all had “bad hair” days, right? 

But when you make a mistake in coloring your hair you have to live with it for a lot longer than a day!

I have to admit that I have dyed my hair almost every color in the spectrum, aside from the outrageous purple, blue or orange variety.  I’ve never been that wild or brave! 

Every time I started to feel unattractive the first thing I used to do to change my appearance was dye my hair.  Somehow I thought that it would transform me into another woman, more beautiful and desireable.  But sometimes it had the opposite effect, and  I would end up looking and feeling worse than better. 

It was hard to pinpoint the problem. 

Then I realized that some of the shades of colors I chose to dye my hair were just not right for my skin tone.  If I went too dark or too red I looked pale and washed out.  

When I finally learned about the Four Seasons of Color and found my correct Season I no longer made hideous color choices.  I could color my hair in a variety of different shades within my Season and never look bad.  What a relief!

The main reason we dye our hair is to change our appearance.   Maybe we just want to look younger (cover grey) or we don’t think our natural color has enough pizzazz!  Or we just want to see what it is like to look different (women love change!)

Ready for the BIG SECRET  to choosing the best colors for your skin type?

Just remember what the natural color of your hair was before you started dying it.   That is the best clue to determine your correct season. 

Let’s say you were a natural born red head, you could be either a Spring or Autumn, depending on how light or dark your true shade is or was.  A natural red head can change to certain shades of brown but needs to stay within the correct” warm” season.  Never use “cool” shades! 

The same is true for someone who has a natural “cool” shade of  dark brown or black, they should never dye their hair a “warm” shade of brown, red or blonde.

You will notice when shopping for hair dye that the shades are separated already into cool and warm colors to help you in picking the correct shade for your skin type. 

That takes out most of the guesswork!

Here is a good word of advise about hair dye that I learned from a good friend of mine who is a professional cosmetologist.   She warned me that  hair colors you buy in the stores have twice the amount (or more) of ammonia in them than professional hair dyes.  Why do they use more ammonia you may ask?   To sell more hair care products.  I’m not joking!   That’s marketing.  The damage to your hair makes you go out and buy more products.

Ever noticed that the directions tell you to do a test first to make sure you are not allergic to the product?  Well who follows directions right?  I admit I didn’t  and regretted it!  I had a horrible experience using one store-bought name brand color (on sale!), as soon as I started applying it to my roots and working it into my scalp it felt like I let loose an army of red ants that started stinging me all over my head.  I was almost crying in pain as I rushed to the sink to wash it out.  I vowed to myself that I would never use that brand again.  

You may pay a lot more by going to a beauty salon to get your hair done, but overall it is worth it to prevent harsh chemical damage to your hair.

What about highlights?  

To add highlights to your hair it is best to use lighter shades within your Season for a more natural look.  Otherwise the overall effect will not be flattering, not to mention a waste of time and money, and embarassing looks from friends and strangers alike. 

Don’t worry about what is trendy, or in fashion at the moment because it will go out  just as fast as it came in style.  And just because a color or style may look good on a model or actress doesn’t mean it will on you.   Celebrities change their hair color like the wind, it depends on the roles they play.  But even most of them don’t have a clue what looks best on them without their professional hair stylist.

By using the various hair dyes available within your correct season you will look and feel naturally vibrant and beautiful.

If you need help determining what season you are, check out the related article below.

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To help you choose the best colors of makeup for your skin tone:

Cycles of Life

Cycles in Nature

We watch the cycles or phases of the moon every 28 days as it waxes and wanes along its course around the earth.   For hundreds of years we have known that it is the regular and predictable cycles of the moon and sun that regulate the ocean’s tides, but do they have an affect in the affairs of humans?   

You all know the Gothic Tale of the man transformed into a bloodthirsty werewolf at the sign of a full moon.  Though purely fictional fantasy, there is some truth that people are affected by the phases of moon.  Ever noticed people seem to drive more erratic or just seem to act alittle weird when there is a full moon?  It’s interesting to note that statistics show more murders occur at the full and new moons than other times of the month. Hmmm, could be where the werewolf story originated from.

Well did you know that your life follows cycles also?    

The most obivous cycle known to women is the menstrual cycle, or as it is not so affectionately called “that time of month”.  It is commonly divided into three phases: the follicular phase,ovulation, and the luteal phase.  The length of each phase varies from woman to woman and cycle to cycle, though the average menstrual cycle is 28 days.

Besides menstruation there are other cycles you may not be aware of, these cycles are known as Biorhythms.  Though not considered a true science, I have seen amazingly accurate calculations in Biorhythm cycles,  which calculate the energy levels or capacities for performance in various areas of life.   These cycles are calculated using the date of birth of the individual.  A Biorhythm chart can pinpoint any date from birth, to the present, to the future.

The three “primary” biorhythms are:

  • physical (23 days), describing your physical energy, reflexes, strength, stamina
  • emotional (28 days), describing your emotional stability and empathy
  • intellectual (33 days), describing your mental aptitude, creativity and problem-solving capabilities
  • These cycles have various affects on your moods and your overall well-being.  Being aware of them can  help you to maintain a positive outlook during the low cycles, knowing that your state  will only last a few days.  In this specific chart on the left you see that all 3 cycles are below the middle (zero) line, which means this person is not in the best condition at this time.  Notice that the emotional and intellectual cycles were both bottomed out about a week ago, but are now on the rise.  The physical cycle was peaked a week ago but now is below the critcal line and will be bottoming out  in about 3 days. 

    When the physical cycle is low the body tends to feel more tired or drained, so its best not over exert the body with too much physical activity.  It’s especially not a good time to engage in any extreme sports for at least a week or so.

    It’s interesting to note that most accidents ocur when the physical cycle is at the lowest point, and the time when the body is more vunerable to sickness.

    When the emotional cycle is low is when emotions such as depression, or anger flare up for no apparent reason.   That’s the time to stay away from stressful situations that could provoke emotions. 

    On the other hand when the intellectual cycle is low the brain get fuzzy, it is hard to concentrate on solving even the most simple problems.  This is not the time to be make any major decisions in you life!  Too bad you can’t schedule exams when your intellect is in peak condition!

    When cycles are at their highest point is when there is a overall sense of well being, nothing can get you down, you are “on top of the world” so to speak. 

    These cycles are constantly fluctuating like waves of the sea, or like being on a roller coaster, at times it can be fun or scary.  Eventually you get used to the ride and can see ahead to prepare for the next wave before it hits. 

    Your menstrual cycle is a separate cycle, but it is affected by these Biorhythm cycles as well.  As I’m sure you’ve noticed that one month you may feel more emotionally affected, then the next month you feel more drained physically during your menstruation.  Ahh, now it makes sense!

    Also be aware that your spouse, your children, your parents, and your friends have their own cycles that will at times clash with yours.  Next time you have a heated arguement with a loved one check out both of your biorhytms, I bet you’ll be amazed at the results. 

    Just seeing where you are at in your cycle at any given time of the month helps you be a little easier on yourself and others.  

    It is a relief when you understand that you are only going though natural phases and cycles of life, just like everyone else.

    Now that you are aware of the cycles, just beware if you are out on the night of a full moon and hear howling, during the time that your emotions and intellect are both down, cause you never know who might be lurking in the dark!

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