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The Gift of Love

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching I thought it appropriate to share some of my personal favorite passionate and tender Quotes and Poem about Love. 

Happy Valentine’s Day! 


“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

My heart to you is given:
Oh, do give yours to me;
We’ll lock them up together,
And throw away the key.
~Frederick Saunders




Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep.   The only way to retain love is to give it away.
~ by Elbert Hubbard ~

You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.  ~Dr. Seuss 


The first duty of love is to listen.  -Paul Tillich 


To love a person is to learn the song that is in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten. – Anonymous

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. – Mark Twain


To laugh often and love much… to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to give one’s self… this is to have succeeded. – Ralph Waldo Emerson


Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside. – Margaret Walker 



P.S. Happy Anniversary to the most wonderful, loving, patient, and compassionate husband in the whole world. 

My heart belongs to you. 


I Love YOU Sweetheart!

You Are What You Eat, Bonappetit


You’ve all heard that phrase “You are what you eat”, but have you ever thought about what that really means? 

Does it mean that if you eat too many carrots your skin will turn orange, you’ll start to smell like a carrot, and bunny rabbits will start stocking you?   

NO!  It is a Figure of Speech. 

We use them all the time.  Like saying “I’m so hungry I could eat a horse”, don’t worry, really I’m not into horsemeat.   Or if I say “My job is killing me!”  I really don’t want you to start digging my grave.   We use figures to emphasize our words, to make a stronger point.

The phrase “You are what you eat” is talking about what you allow into your heart (not your mouth) is what you become. 

There is a verse in the Bible that illustrates this well, “Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart… Jer. 15:16.   Jeremiah ate the words God gave him, he made them a part of his thinking and the words gave joy to his heart.   Here is another great verse, “O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trustheth in him.” Psa. 34:8.   How can you taste God?   It is God’s words that are sweeter than honey (Psalms 19:10b), they are nourishment to the soul.  They are The Words of Life!

When words enter our ears we start to consider them (chew on them), then we decide to either reject them (spit them out) or accept them (digest them) and make them a part of our thinking, and ultimately a part of our heart that changes our lives accordingly.  

Ever heard of GIGO?  Garbage In, Garbage Out. 

We have to be careful what we allow into our mind, and dwell on in our heart, cause it will surely come out our mouth.

What do the words which you give to others do for them?  

Remember that once words leave your mouth you can’t take them back. 

But you can put your foot in your mouth, which usually happens when you say something stupid or hurtful. “Dang I can’t believe I said that!”  Sound familar?

When our spouse tells us we look beautiful we feel on top of the world, when they say we look fat we are devastated.  

 But when the guy you cut off on the freeway yells at you it barely upsets you. 

Why does one affect you but not the other?  We allow certain people to affect us because we have respect for what they say, either good or bad. 

Words can be uplifting or depressing. 

Words can be loving or hateful. 

Words can make us blush, or make us cry.  

Words can make us afraid or give us great encouragement. 

Spiteful words can be weapons for destruction of the soul. 

Comforting words can heal the broken hearted.

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”  3 John 2

To be healthy on the inside we need to dwell on things that promote health.  The most healthy words I know come from God, our Creator, our Father who wants the best for us in every category of life.  His words are pure, peaceable and easy to be intreated (James 3:17).  They give life to those that hear and believe.

What are you eating?  What are you feeding others?

Choose your words carefully and Bonappetit!

Are You Hearing What I’m Saying?


10 Tips That Will Help You Improve Your Listening Skills

Ernest Hemingway once said “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” How true that is. How many times has someone asked you how you were, but doesn’t take the time to listen to your response? They may cut you off, start talking about themselves, or walk away. If you’re like most people, this behavior probably leaves a sour taste in your mouth. People want to be heard and listened to; they want to feel like someone cares.

Be honest with yourself. Do you exhibit the same behaviors that you dislike, or do you make every attempt to hear and listen to those around you? If you find that your listening skills are poor or need tweaking, this article provides tips on how to be a better listener.

1. Make a commitment to improve your listening skills. It is important to note that listening is not a skill with which we are born. We have to learn how to develop good listening skills, and continuously practice what we learn. There are classes and books dedicated to helping individuals learn and perfect their listening skills.

2. Talk less and listen more. Most people like to talk, especially about themselves. As such, work on talking less and listening more. When listening to someone, you might want to jump in and offer an opinion or suggestion; however, make every effort not to do so. Give him the opportunity to be fully heard. In your mind, repeat every word he says, immediately after he has said it. This will help you keep your own thoughts at bay, as you will be listening only to the speaker’s words.

3. Whether you are listening to a friend, co-worker, or employee, give them your undivided attention. Make sure there are no distractions (e.g., phones, computers, TVs) that would interfere with your giving full attention to the speaker. If the distractions are unavoidable, try to separate yourself from them to the best of your ability.

4. Display objectivity when listening to others. Set aside your own thoughts, judgments, and experiences. Act as if you don’t have any attachment to what is being said.

5. When listening to people with different viewpoints, put yourself in their shoes. Although you may not agree with them, it might help you to better understand their perspective. Try to find a common ground; areas in which you both agree.

6. Wait until a person has finished speaking before you respond. If you are formulating a response while the person is speaking, you are not truly listening to him.

7. In order to communicate that the individual has been heard, summarize or paraphrase what he just said to confirm that you heard him correctly.

8. When listening to someone, takes notes, if needed, to remember important points.

9. As you listen to people, pay attention to how they are conveying their message. Are they loud? Are they speaking quickly? Which words do they use to express what they are feeling? What is the tone of their voice? Their tone generally reflects their emotions; how they are feeling about the issue. When people are angry, upset, or passionate about an issue, the volume of their voice increases, and the tone changes. When they are excited, they may talk faster. When they are depressed, they may talk slow, and the tone of their voice may be sad or devoid of any emotion.

10. When listening to others, also observe their nonverbal behaviors, as sometimes the individual’s words and non-verbal behaviors will be contradictory. Are their arms and/or legs crossed? Are they looking directly at you or avoiding eye contact? Is their body turned away from you? Typically, these are signs that the person is “closed” from having a conversation; he may be embarrassed, or trying to avoid a confrontation, or simply doesn’t want to talk. Conversely, if the individual is smiling, looking directly at you, and has a relaxed stance, he is open to dialogue.

Listening is one of the greatest gifts you can give to another person. By improving your listening skills, you will be a better friend, colleague, or supervisor. People will naturally gravitate towards you, and appreciate you. The above tips will help, but it your responsibility to continuously work on improving your listening skills. It may take time and effort, but the rewards will be worth it.

Copyright 2009 © Sharon L. Mikrut, All rights reserved.
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