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Tis The Season

Joy to the world! Tis the season to be jolly!

Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds.

Everyone is happy at holiday time — right?   Wrong!

Truth be told, many people feel lonely, sad, anxious and depressed at this time of year.


The holidays have gotten out of hand!

The media hype promotes certain images that we feel we have to live up to, but they are false, fake, not real.  Then when we don’t attain those images that were planted in our brains (probably by the sugar-plum fairies) we feel depressed, and unfulfilled.  Bah Humbug!

holiday madness

We are told that we need to buy, buy, buy, in order to feel the “spirit of giving” and make our loved ones happy.  There are even “special sales” on those supposedly perfect gift items that we can’t do without.  So we are herded through the crowded malls and stores hunting for: over priced toys, the latest and greatest electronic devises (what did we ever do before GPS’ or iPods?), and those promotional “whatever is popular on TV” items, for those we love and those we feel obligated to buy for.   We rack up massive debts to make our loved ones happy.

But Christmas comes and goes in a flash, and no one seems any more merry, instead everyone is exhausted and just happy that the holiday is over.  Then the Happy New Year begins with credit card statements from strange stores names we don’t remember shopping at,  and dollar amounts for things we don’t even remember we purchased.  Now we get really depressed cause we have to spend the whole new year paying off all the debts  that the “Christmas Spirit” posessed us to buy.


Tis the Season to feel burnt out, wondering if it was all worth it.

Let’s try a little experiment; think back to last year, on Christmas Day, do you remember what gifts you gave to who?  Or what gifts you received from who?  How about two years ago?  You may remember a few, but gifts are not the main thing you remember about the holidays are they?

The important things to remember are not things at all; they are the memories of time spent with those you love.

What is the purpose of the holiday in the first place?  To celebrate the birth of Jesus?  After all “Jesus is the reason for the Season” isn’t he?  If so would he approve of how out of control the celebration of his birthdate has become?

I don’t mean to burst your bubble, but  Jesus Christ wasn’t  even born on December 25th.  There is no historical evidence for this date.  So then, who decided that Jesus’ birth would be celebrated on that date?  The early Christian church did not celebrate Jesus’ birth at all.  It wasn’t until 440 A.D.  that the church officially proclaimed December 25th as the birth of Christ.  This was not based on any religious evidence but on a Roman pagan festival. Saturnalia was a tradition inherited by the Roman pagans from an earlier Babylonian priesthood. December 25th was used as a celebration of the birthday of the sun god.  It was observed near the winter solstice.

Accurately Jesus was born under the sign of Virgo (the Virgin) so his birthdate was between August and September.

Well then does it make more sense to celebrate Santa Claus?   Have you ever noticed that most children are afraid of Santa?   They are not comfortable because they instinctively know he is a stranger.  Think about it, you tell your children not to talk to strangers, then you tell them it is “ok” to sit on this strangely dressed, weird looking big fat guy’s lap, isn’t that being hypocritical?    Kids are not stupid!   Think about what you are teaching them, when they find out that Santa is a lie, will they trust other things you tell them?  If you’re interested in finding out the origins of Santa, a.k.a. St. Nicholas go to

Whatever you choose to do for the holidays just do it for the right reasons.   Don’t allow yourself to fall into the chaotic mass hysteria, it takes all the fun out of it!  There is nothing wrong with celebrating good quality time with family and friends, but do it without all the media hype, lies and deception.  It will be much more rewarding.

Here are some simple words of advise:

One of the best antidotes for the holiday blues is doing something for someone else.  Volunteer your time this holiday season to help others, doing so will add a lot more meaning to your holiday season.  Get your children involved too, teach them that it is “better to give than to receive”.


christmas-craft-ornamentsHow about Making some priceless homemade gifts from the heart?  Instead of expensive store-bought items that have no meaning or any long-term value.

There are so many things to make; from cookies, breads and candies, to knitted pot holders, mittens, scarfs or socks, scented candles,  ornaments or wreaths.  Those are just a few that come to mind.  Ask your kids, they will probably have great ideas of their own.  Here is just one site I found that has some fun inexpensive holiday craft ideas:

There are many resources on the internet to choose from.

Some people love the energy and exuberance of big holiday parties and activities. For others, all of it is very taxing. If you find yourself getting a little anxious, take a breather. Find a quiet spot to relax and recharge your batteries.  How about sending the kids away for an evening, and relax with a nice bubble bath!  Then curl up with a nice hot cup of coco and that great book you always wanted to read, or watch an old comedy (laughter if a great stress reliever!).

It is easy to overindulge around the holidays, but excessive drinking  and overeating will only make you feel more depressed.

Don’t be disappointed if your holidays aren’t like they used to be.  Life is full of changes.  Don’t dwell on the fact that the “good old days” are gone.  Make some “good new days” that will be the memories of tomorrow!

Now here’s the most important thing you can do to beat those blues:

No matter what is happening in your life, keep in mind all that you have to be thankful for.

You can’t be depressed and blessed at the same time!

Stay safe,  stress less and spend quality time with your family and friends!

Happy Holidays!

True Beauty is a State of Mind

Beauty is expressed differently in every culture around the world. It means different thing to different people. But there is a universal view that holds true to all cultures and all ages.

It is what is on the inside that counts!


In the Western World, we have a hard time grasping why women in the Middle East wear veils. Women since ancient times have worn veils. The veil represents God’s protection over the woman. No man is allowed to touch a veiled woman, with the exception of her husband, or her father. You can not judge her by her appearance, only by her words and her actions, that reflect her heart. 

The only place you still see veils in the Western culture is at Weddings.  Brides still wear veils, but the meaning is pretty much lost.  We know traditionally that the Groom is not supposed to see the Bride before the Wedding, but it doesn’t mean much since most already have intimate relations before marriage.  In ancient times the groom never saw the bride at all until the wedding ceremony.

Westerners believe physical looks are everything.  The obsession with youthful appearance is why Plastic Surgery is big business today.  We need to realize that the  purpose of media advertising is to make us feel inadequate so that we will buy things to make us feel or look better.   But in reality it does not work, the more you buy the worse you feel, not the better.  The attempts at perfecting the flesh are unfulfilling in making us happy about ourselves.   

Have you ever thought someone was gorgeous, you just idolized them, until you actually met and talked to them? All of a sudden you realized they were not beautiful at all.  In fact they were downright ugly! What changed your perception of them?

You see “true beauty” is not in the outward appearance, it is in the heart.  In The Bible there is a proverb that states, “as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”.

Those who are rotten on the inside may be able to fool people temporarily with their attractive appearance, but eventually people will see right through them.  

A beautiful heart makes a person beautiful inside and out.   How do you perceive yourself?  

Here is a good test.   What do you see in this picture?  

illusionAn old woman or a young woman?

Invision yourself how you want others to see you, and you will become what you see! 

If you compare your looks to whoever is on the latest tabloid cover you will be disapointed.  But ask yourself why.  Are they really as they appear?  Take Pamela Anderson for instance, how much of her is real?  Her greatest asset that made her famous is fake!  It’s the same with countless others. 

Their lives are not worth imitating.  Unless you want to live an over dramatic Soap Opera life.   

What is so attractive about a beautifully wrapped empty box?gift_box_promo-3?

It is what’s inside that counts! 

How about someone like Barbra Streisand?  Her beauty is not in her physical appearance, with her cross eyes, and big nose.  Her beauty comes from within her, her amazing voice is the redeeming quality that makes her beautiful.   What is yours?

Pretty packaging does help to present your special gift,  but it is not the gift itself.

For a real shocker click here to see what men find attractive in women.

Your Talents, Your Abilities, Your Experiences are the Gifts You have to Give!

The real you is not what you see in the mirror!

Search your heart for your inner beauty.   Improve yourself from the inside out, and you will be amazed at the compliments  you’ll receive of how beautiful you are (no face lifts, tummy tucks or implants required!).

by Tricia Tulak

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