We only have a hard time communicating because we think men think like us. But they don’t! Why would we want them to?
Men are really not complicated at all as you can see.
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Do you think fashion designers really consider or care what their styles will look like on the majority of the population? Or do they just love to come up with those weird, quirky styles that only look cool on anorexic models, making the rest of us look like blimps?
The fashion industry continues to provide cookie cutter molds that are unrealistic that make the majority of us feel inadequate and unattractive. Just think when you see a model or celebrity wearing the latest style, is your body shaped like theirs? Are you close in age to them? These are important things to consider when you tend to follow the current trends.
If you want men to go gaga over you, please don’t follow the styles of Lady Gaga! She loves to “shock and awe” us with her outrageously tacky fashions, but then that IS her quirky trademark.
Remember Madonna’s style back in the 80’s, how every teen had to dress like her? Her styles over the years have been quite wild (and downright slutty). Then Gaga carried it a bit further beyond wacky and weird.
Neither of them are natural beauties in my opinion nor do they have perfect figures. Maybe that’s why they dress so outrageous, to hide their flaws! Or to flaunt them!
You may not have killer curves like Kim Kardashian, or a derrière like J Lo, but you are uniquely beautiful in your own right.
Learning what brings out your best attributes and hides your flaws is the real key to being “fashionable”.
A very important thing to remember is that there is NO such thing as a PERFECT figure!
Personally I’ve never been too concerned what others are wearing, or what is “in” style at the time. Maybe because I had a brief modeling career back in my twenties and I’ve seen how fast trends come and go. I also learned the hard way how expensive it is to keep “in style”.
Here are a few things to ask yourself that will help you determine what styles look good on you:
Are you petite? (I hate using the word “short”)
Wear clothes that make you look taller, not ones that emphasize your size. Avoid long skirts that are below the knee. High waisted clothes and shorter length skirts and jackets look good on you! High heels are great but be careful, you don’t want it to look like you are trying too hard to look taller.
Too Tall?
The taller and slimmer you are the more styles you can wear. But if you are over 5’7 it’s best to avoid high waisted jackets and vests. Skirt lengths can vary, but keep in mind that mid length hems can make you look shorter and add weight. Choose high heels that don’t add too much height, as you don’t need it.
Are you overweight?
Avoid wearing clothes that are too tight, that show every bulge. Do wear clothes that have vertical lines or seams rather than horizontal. The right colors can also have a slimming affect. And despite popular belief, the color black can actually make you look larger (unless you are a Winter, then Black looks great on you!).
Here are some fashion mistakes to avoid:
UGG!!! This is a big NO-NO!
I don’t care how comfortable these are. Ugg’s were designed to be worn with leggings or tight jeans NOT shorts, or skirts, how tacky!
Over accessorizing is another big NO-NO! This can make you look bargain basement cheap.
Pants that are too long or too short. Or pants that are too tight or too loose.
Oh yeah and where did the tight jeans with the thongs sticking out the top come from? Yikes!
Is this the women’s version of the men’s pants hanging below their underwear? OMG! 
More Fashion No No’s-
Too much denim. Demin jackets do NOT go with everything!
Always wearing solid colors. That is so blah! Better to have a print or patterned blouse with solid color pants or visa versa. The colors don’t necessarily have to match, contrasting colors can add a dramatic affect. Just stay with colors within your Season to look your best!
Women over 50 wearing the styles of women in their 20’s. Boy this one really gets me! Stay with styles that flatter your age, not make you look ridiculous.
Sweat pants with writing on the butt! OMG I saw a very unattractive heavy set woman wearing a pair of tight sweat pants that had “sexy” written across the butt. What was she thinking? I couldn’t believe it!
I could go on and on!
The bottom line is that no matter what is in style for the moment when you “know” what looks best on you then people will notice your true fashion sense and want to follow you!
You’ll be a trend setter!
P.S. If you can think of any other fashion mistakes you’d like to add feel free to comment. We can help each other out here. Thanks!
I know water doesn’t sound very appetizing, but the multiple benefits greatly out way the tasteless, aroma-less drink.
Water is a precious gift of nature.
Water flushes our bodies of impurities and toxins.
Water clears up our complexion.
Water helps in the digestive process.
And so much more…
The human body is on the average about 60% water. So water is essential to life. A person can go days, weeks and even months without food, but cannot go more than a few days without water. We lose water daily through sweat and urination so it needs to be replaced regularly in order for our organs to continue to work properly.
Concerning diet we are always told to be careful “what” we eat, and that we shouldn’t eat this or that. Which is important for a healthy lifestyle. But one thing that I’ve found very interesting is that it is not only “what” you eat, but “how much” you eat that can be a big problem.
You’ve heard the phrase “Your eyes are bigger than you stomach”. Meaning your cravings cause you to eat more than your stomach can handle. This is especially true when the food “tastes sooooo good!” Another bad habit is when we eat too fast we don’t realize when we are full, and we end up overeating.
What happens when we overeat all the time is that our stomachs stretch out of proportion. Like what happens to a balloon when you blow it up, then release the air, it never shrinks back to its original size.
This is the problem when people get their stomachs stapled. They have to eat much less or else the stomach will stretch out again.
This is where “water” can help.
Water makes a great appetizer! When you start to feel hungry, before you open the refrigerator door, try drinking two 8oz. glasses of water FIRST. You will find that water will fill you up so that you will not be tempted to over eat.
Next time you feel like a snack try drinking a glass of water and wait 10 to 15 minutes and see if you still feel like snacking. Then if you’re still hungry try a light healthy snack of fruit or veggies. If the water curbed your appetite then you may have just been thirsty and not hungry.
Staying hydrated with water should be a high priority in your over all health plan.
And if you think water is a little too bland for your taste try adding a slice of lemon to give it a little flavor.
Plus lemons help with the digestion and eliminate toxins as well!
Depending on where you live in the world you may witness drastic changes in scenery as the earth rotates and the seasons change. Obviously if you live on a Tropical Island or in the Antarctic you will not experience all four seasons. But for many, experiencing the gradual transitions of nature’s awe inspiring events from Winter to Spring and Summer to Autumn are welcome occurences.
Not only does the climate go through changes but wildlife; plants, trees and the sky all transform seasonally into distinctive and stunning panoramas before your very eyes.
Spring is when the wide array of colorful flowers bud, and start to bloom. Life is awakened from the cold of Winter. New life springs forth all around us.
For humans this phase of life starts from birth to our teens, when life is new, filled with wonder and excitement.
Just as Summer temperatures start to rise, hormonal changes start affecting our bodies and our minds, this phase lasts from our teens to thirties. These are our reproductive years.
The air starts to cool, just as our bodies become more sensitive to temperature changes. This is the mid point of life between our forties to sixties. As the leaves change color and start to fall, our bodies too start changing. It is the time of menopause, reversingthe affects of adolescence.
As Winter approaches the sky turns cloudy gray like the hair on our heads. The brisk cold affects our our bones like the bare limbs of the trees. This is the time when physical beauty fades, but in its place a true sense of self, an appreciation for all of life’s precious moments emerges. A reflection of past accomplishments and failures, of loves gained and lost.
My Mission: To improve my appearance before anyone else sees me! But unfortunately on occasion, my husband is making his way to bed as I’m rising and we met in the hall. Yikes! He is the last person I want to see me before I put my face on!
One of the biggest things I notice first is the DARK CIRCLES under my eyes!
Or the “Raccoon Effect” as some call it.
Lack of Sleep – One of the most common reasons of “temporary” dark under eye circles is lack of sleep. Making sure to get at least 8 hours of sleep regularly is the way to keep dark circles at bay.
Iron Deficiency –Low iron levels can result in lessened blood oxygenating efficiency. One of the areas seen the most of all is under the eyes where vessels tend to clot and pool, thus causing the dark circle eye effect. Increasing iron intake by adding some of these foods to your diet such as; Eggs, oily fish, red meat, dried fruit such as figs and apricots, beans and nuts which are all rich in iron can help diminish dark circles and other symptoms IF deficiency in iron is the problem. It is important to get enough Vitamin C also, as this helps the absorption of iron by your body.
Hereditary –Do others in your family also have dark under eye circles? The majority of people who have dark circles under the eyes don’t suffer from any deficiencies or fatigue, it is simply an inherited trait. This can be the most frustrating because no matter what you do, you always look tired, even after you’ve had a great night’s sleep. That’s me!
Dark circles are similar to bruises, they are really oxidizing hemoglobin.
Dark under-eye circles begin in the capillaries, the tiny blood vessels that web the delicate skin around the eyes. Frequently, red blood cells get lost and wander into the surrounding skin. This is normal and the enzymes in your body break down the red blood cells, including their hemoglobin (the molecule that gives them their distinctive red color).
But the reason dark under-eye circles are so apparent is that the skin around the eyes is some of the thinnest, most delicate skin of your entire body. And the capillaries are much closer to the surface of the skin there. Many people’s skin is not only thinner around the eyes, but also more translucent.
The combination of capillaries near the skin’s surface and translucent skin makes this discoloration a lot more apparent.
Cucumbers lighten the skin, soothe and cool the eyes. This really helps if you’ve had a late the night before or your eyes are red and tired from allergies.
It’s best to lay down on your back, or else the cucumbers will fall off! Lay a thin slice of cucumber on each eye, making sure they have contact with the skin under the eyes. Leave them on for 5 to 10 minutes. Might want to set an alarm so you don’t fall asleep. Also be careful not to get the juice from the cucumber in your eyes.
Apply Tea bags to your eyes .The caffeine in the tea bags acts as a remedy for dark circles by diminishing puffiness. Tea also contains antioxidants that are beneficial to the skin.
Take 2 used tea bags, can be green, black or white tea that’s been squeezed out. Make sure you wait till it is cool! Lie down and leave them over your eyes for about 10 minutes. You’ll see a noticeable improvement in puffiness and under-eye circles.
Concealer is the most effective tool for hiding dark under-eye circles.
You’ll want to choose a color that’s a shade lighter than your normal color if your dark circles are blue-black. Just don’t go too light or you’ll get the reverse “raccoon effect”! Concealers are effective at hiding dark under-eye circles because they’re opaque, meaning they don’t let light through. When applying concealer never use your index finger as it will apply too much pressure on the sensitive area around your eyes. You can use a sponge or your ring finger for the best results. If your dark circles are not terribly noticeable you might be able to get away with just using a foundation instead of a concealer. If you use both some recommend applying the concealer first then the foundation, but I’ve heard others do the reverse. Whatever works best for YOU! It is also a good idea to finish with some translucent power over your face so your face doesn’t shine!
Another solution is to find a product that can actually help to get rid of dark circles completely. But don’t expect a miracle, nothing works overnight. There are a lot of products out there to choose from. Most contain a pigment-lightening. Warning these products are not cheap!
Personally, I’ve been extremely happy with the results from a product I’m using, Adrien Arpel’s Eye Perfection crème. It is a triple action formula, that takes care of puffiness, dark circles and fine line and wrinkles. Nice thing is it is slightly cooling, and non-greasy. It also hydrates, revitalizes and smoothes, de-puffs and reduces the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.
Hope these suggestions help to remedy those unwanted “raccoon” eyes. Hey, you know that smokey eyes are in style now!
Maybe we could start a trend that makes dark eye circles popular!
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