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The Difference between Men and Women

Need I say more? 

And we wonder why men have a hard time understanding us!

We only have a hard time communicating because we think men think like us.  But they don’t!  Why would we want them to? 

Men are really not complicated at all as you can see.   

For more on this subject check out this article:

From Differnet Worlds?


Judging a Book By It’s Cover

You’ve all heard the phrase 

“You Can’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover” 

But yet we all do it. 

Just think about it,  when you’re browsing in a bookstore aren’t you attracted to a book by how interesting the cover is?   They may be colorful, or have some unique picture or phrase that grabs your attention so you’ll pick it up to find out more, right?  They are designed that way, that’s marketing. 

Believe it or not it is the same with people! 

Did you know that you only have three to seven seconds upon meeting someone to make an impression on them?   In this short time, the other person will form an opinion about you that is based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed. 

That means you will be  judged before you can even open your mouth to speak!  

This is done on a subconscious/emotional level of the brain.  So there is nothing you can do about it, or can you?

As Will Rogers once said “You never get a second chance to make a first impression

Like it or not, you need to grab people’s attention right away by your appearance. 

Though your true beauty is on the inside, your personality will take time for people to see.

“It’s beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.” ~Anonymous ~

There is only one that does not judge you by your looks, that is God.  “…for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Sam. 16:7b. 

But when dealing with people how you present yourself will determine if someone will want to be your friend, consider you for a job, or feel that you are trustworthy, and so on.

So what can you do to make a good first impression that will last?   How important is your appearance? 

Your clothes, your hair, and your mannerisms all play a part in the impression you make on others.  

Let’s start with the way you dress. 

What is the best way to dress for the meeting or occasion?  If it’s a business meeting, a job interview, or a first date even, think about  what is the appropriate attire?  Also ask yourself what other people will be wearing so you are not over or under dressed for the event. 

Wearing the correct Season of colors for your specific skin tone, eyes and hair is crucial in making the best impression and feeling confident about your appearance.

If you have confidence in yourself others will notice right away.  A polite and courteous behavior helps make a good first impression.  

How about your personal grooming?   Cleanliness is next to godliness!  Nicely styled hair, neat and clean clothes (not wrinkled like you wore them to bed the night before), and appropriately applied makeup are all important.  Oh yeah and take it easy on the perfume!  Too much can be just as offensive if not more so than none at all.

Project a positive attitude, even when you are nervousness, and remember to smile,  it’s contagious!

People will “read” you on the outside before getting to know you on the inside, so strive to be the most beautiful you can be both inside and out.

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From Different Worlds?

You’ve all heard of the book  “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” by Dr. John Gray, right?  As great as the book is in helping improve communications by using the analogy of men and women coming from different worlds, you need to accept the fact that as diverse as we may seem we are still from the same planet, EARTH. 

So get used to it!

It is true that men do not think like women and visa versa.  Nor do men have the same priorities as women.  We are wired differently for a reason.  This is the divine design of our creator.   He knew that opposites would attract.  Viva la Difference!  

We are designed to compliment each other. 

Men are designed with single focus, to do one thing at a time and give it their all.   They are great at accomplishing big jobs that require alot of concentration.  That is why men make great soliders, surgeons, firefighters and police officers (just to name a few).  

Their switch is either on or off.  Mostly ON!  

Women on the other hand are a bit more complicated, with many switches, knobs and buttons (moods and conditions).  And all must be turned on in the right sequence and order to get right results.  No wonder we drive men crazy!

Women are designed to multi-task.    They have responsibilities of cleaning, while cooking, and taking care of their kids all at the same time (not to mention about 5 other things usually going on as well).  But leave a man home for a day to do all the daily tasks a woman does and you find out only a few things get done.  Then we complain that they are lazy or don’t care.  That is not the problem.   They are not designed like women!

Here are some differences in the way men and women think:

Women–  talk about their feelings and frustrations.

Men–  talk about their actions and accomplishments, not their “feelings”.

Women– work out their problems by sharing them with others, and asking for help.

Men– Work out their problems alone (talking about them or asking for help is considered being weak).

Women– Desire to improve things by offering advise without being asked (men reject this as a form of humiliation).

Men– Need to be accepted as they are.  They will improve themselves when they feel loved, trusted and accepted.

It is a miracle that we can ever see eye to eye on anything!   

The important thing to understand is that we cannot make men think like us (why would we want to anyway?).  

A wife needs to have respect for her husband, not tear him down every other day.  I have seen so many women work so hard to change their men, then when they finally change them (break them) they no longer love or respect them. 

When a man feels respected he will do anything for the woman he loves.   

Success in marriage is more than finding the right person: it is a matter of being the right person.  Work on improving yourself and it will improve your marriage and your life.

Relationships take work.  And let me tell you it is “hard work”.   No great accomplishment in life is easy.  

Don’t allow your differences to tear your relationship apart.

Marriage takes a lifetime to perfect (maybe that is why it is “until death do us part”). 


You know what they say “practice makes perfect”, and practicing can be a lot of fun!


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The Gift of Love

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching I thought it appropriate to share some of my personal favorite passionate and tender Quotes and Poem about Love. 

Happy Valentine’s Day! 


“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

My heart to you is given:
Oh, do give yours to me;
We’ll lock them up together,
And throw away the key.
~Frederick Saunders




Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep.   The only way to retain love is to give it away.
~ by Elbert Hubbard ~

You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.  ~Dr. Seuss 


The first duty of love is to listen.  -Paul Tillich 


To love a person is to learn the song that is in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten. – Anonymous

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. – Mark Twain


To laugh often and love much… to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to give one’s self… this is to have succeeded. – Ralph Waldo Emerson


Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside. – Margaret Walker 



P.S. Happy Anniversary to the most wonderful, loving, patient, and compassionate husband in the whole world. 

My heart belongs to you. 


I Love YOU Sweetheart!

The Knight Before and After

Once upon a time there lived a handsome and noble knight that rode about on his trusty steed, in faithful service to his kingdom, ridding the land of wretched evil doers and monstrous beasts.  All the men, from peasants to nobles, young and old,  had the utmost  respect for his courage and his fearlessness in the face of danger.  All the young ladies of the kingdom were enamored by the tales of his heroic deeds, and his charismatic charm. 

One day as he rode through the woods he heard a faint cry off in the distance, without hesitation he set his horse to a full gallop toward the sound of the distressed woman’s voice.   Upon arrival he found a fair golden-haired maiden, bound to a tree.   He recognised her at once, she was the king’s youngest daughter, Princess Anne. 

 “Most noble Sir, look yonder!” she shouted, as her captor approached from the bushes, lunging with sword in hand just as the knight lifted off his horse, then the deadly duel began… 

Let’s stop right there for a moment.

You’ve probably noticed that somewhat familiar theme is the scenario of many literary works, even some modern ones, movies such as Star Wars and Spiderman to name a few.  The “Knight in Shining Armour and the Damsel in Distress”.   What makes those stories so appealing?   They fulfill that underlying need and desire that men have to be a real “man’s man” who saves the day, and for the woman’s need to be enamored by a strong courageous man who can protect and take care of her.

Let’s fast forward to modern-day.

Do men today have the same instincts and desires as that dashing and daring knight of olden day? 

They sure do! 

But in our modern society there is not much place for them.  The closest thing we have to a chivalric knight today is a man in the Police Force or the Military that defends and protects our country from harm.  Thank God for them!

What about in a marriage? 

The husband instinctively has that same desire to protect his wife and children from harm;  to be the knight that saves the day.  

Just like in the animal kingdom, the male lion defends his pride (family) with his life.  He is brave and fearless, no wonder he is called the king of the jungle!   

But how can a man prove himself to be brave to receive the kind of respect and admiration he instinctively needs today?  

Unfortunately modern society is forcing changes in men’s and women’s roles.   Women now compete with men for jobs and status, correspondingly men have lost their knightly role in society due to negative propaganda of Male Chauvinism, and promotion of Women’s Lib.

If women are taking on more masculine roles then what alternatives do men have?  If they choose not to join the Military or Police Force they may either become tough “bad guys” to get respect, or they may adapt to more feminine roles, and take on female attributes.  All the men in-between these extremes learn to adapt to corporate, professional life or manual labor.  But do these kinds of jobs or careers really fulfil their basic knightly instinct?

How about in the home?  Ever heard the phrase “A man’s home is his castle”?  He needs to be the king or knight so-to-speak of his family.  He needs to be respected, and not criticized for every decision he makes.  He needs to know that he is needed.    There is nothing more humiliating for a knight than to have the damsel that he risks his life to save tell him that she doesn’t need his help afterall.  That is devastating to a man’s pride. 

 So what can wives do to help? 

Let him know you need him and appreciate him like the damsel in distress. 

There is a BIG SECRET to asking for help though.  Never tell him what to do or that you expect his help.

Men instinctively want to help, but not if it seems like they are being forced into it.   Be careful not to act like a mother to your husband!   Treating your husband as a child is one of the worst things you can do, and is a sure way to ruin a marriage.  

There is only one steering wheel in a car for a reason.  Only one person should be ultimately in charge, and a man is designed to be a leader.   Honestly doesn’t every woman desire that type of man?   If your husband doesn’t act like a knight, treat him like one anyway, and he will start to become what you see in him.

What an honor and a  joy for a woman to be the beautiful princess that the noble knight longs for, to take care of and to cherish. 

This may seem like a Fairy Tale, but this can be real life!

P.S. Pray for our Troops, the brave men and women that protect and keep our country free!

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