“You Can’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover”
But yet we all do it.
Just think about it, when you’re browsing in a bookstore aren’t you attracted to a book by how interesting the cover is? They may be colorful, or have some unique picture or phrase that grabs your attention so you’ll pick it up to find out more, right? They are designed that way, that’s marketing.
Believe it or not it is the same with people!
Did you know that you only have three to seven seconds upon meeting someone to make an impression on them? In this short time, the other person will form an opinion about you that is based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.
That means you will be judged before you can even open your mouth to speak!
This is done on a subconscious/emotional level of the brain. So there is nothing you can do about it, or can you?
As Will Rogers once said “You never get a second chance to make a first impression“
Like it or not, you need to grab people’s attention right away by your appearance.
Though your true beauty is on the inside, your personality will take time for people to see.
“It’s beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.” ~Anonymous ~
There is only one that does not judge you by your looks, that is God. “…for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Sam. 16:7b.
But when dealing with people how you present yourself will determine if someone will want to be your friend, consider you for a job, or feel that you are trustworthy, and so on.
So what can you do to make a good first impression that will last? How important is your appearance?
Your clothes, your hair, and your mannerisms all play a part in the impression you make on others.
Let’s start with the way you dress.
What is the best way to dress for the meeting or occasion? If it’s a business meeting, a job interview, or a first date even, think about what is the appropriate attire? Also ask yourself what other people will be wearing so you are not over or under dressed for the event.
Wearing the correct Season of colors for your specific skin tone, eyes and hair is crucial in making the best impression and feeling confident about your appearance.
How about your personal grooming? Cleanliness is next to godliness! Nicely styled hair, neat and clean clothes (not wrinkled like you wore them to bed the night before), and appropriately applied makeup are all important. Oh yeah and take it easy on the perfume! Too much can be just as offensive if not more so than none at all.
Project a positive attitude, even when you are nervousness, and remember to smile, it’s contagious!
People will “read” you on the outside before getting to know you on the inside, so strive to be the most beautiful you can be both inside and out.