You’ve all heard of the book “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” by Dr. John Gray, right? As great as the book is in helping improve communications by using the analogy of men and women coming from different worlds, you need to accept the fact that as diverse as we may seem we are still from the same planet, EARTH.
It is true that men do not think like women and visa versa. Nor do men have the same priorities as women. We are wired differently for a reason. This is the divine design of our creator. He knew that opposites would attract. Viva la Difference!
We are designed to compliment each other.
Men are designed with single focus, to do one thing at a time and give it their all. They are great at accomplishing big jobs that require alot of concentration. That is why men make great soliders, surgeons, firefighters and police officers (just to name a few).
Women on the other hand are a bit more complicated, with many switches, knobs and buttons (moods and conditions). And all must be turned on in the right sequence and order to get right results. No wonder we drive men crazy!
Women are designed to multi-task. They have responsibilities of cleaning, while cooking, and taking care of their kids all at the same time (not to mention about 5 other things usually going on as well). But leave a man home for a day to do all the daily tasks a woman does and you find out only a few things get done. Then we complain that they are lazy or don’t care. That is not the problem. They are not designed like women!
Here are some differences in the way men and women think:
Women– talk about their feelings and frustrations.
Men– talk about their actions and accomplishments, not their “feelings”.
Women– work out their problems by sharing them with others, and asking for help.
Men– Work out their problems alone (talking about them or asking for help is considered being weak).
Women– Desire to improve things by offering advise without being asked (men reject this as a form of humiliation).
Men– Need to be accepted as they are. They will improve themselves when they feel loved, trusted and accepted.
A wife needs to have respect for her husband, not tear him down every other day. I have seen so many women work so hard to change their men, then when they finally change them (break them) they no longer love or respect them.
When a man feels respected he will do anything for the woman he loves.
Success in marriage is more than finding the right person: it is a matter of being the right person. Work on improving yourself and it will improve your marriage and your life.
Don’t allow your differences to tear your relationship apart.
Marriage takes a lifetime to perfect (maybe that is why it is “until death do us part”).
You know what they say “practice makes perfect”, and practicing can be a lot of fun!